Sunday, October 30, 2011

“When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive - to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.” --Marcus Aurelius

January: Nutrition and Health
February: Kindness and Generosity
March: Order and Purpose
April: Strength and Flexibility
May: Relationships
June: Adventure and Fun
July: Community and Environment
August: Knowledge and Interests
September: Sleep and Tranquility
October: Simplicity and Moderation
November: Gratitude and Positivity
December: Spirituality and Resolution


This month is about having a grateful and positive attitude. Even though I occasionally take it for granted, I really do have so much to be thankful for. Just last night we got home from a baby shower that my husband's old neighborhood hosted for us. Everyone was so warm and inviting, and I was overwhelmed with hugs, compliments, good food, and generous gifts. This shower is one of five baby showers that friends, family or coworkers have thrown for us. FIVE baby showers! Of course I am excited to get nice, new, much-needed things for our baby, but I mostly just feel very blessed that we have so many loving, supportive people in our lives. Even more, for 9 months I have had a happy, healthy pregnancy with no big discomforts, complications, or complaints. I'm married to my high school sweetheart and best friend, and he is equally excited to welcome our little boy into this world. We have a safe, comfy home and stable jobs with lots of vacation time. And when I take a minute to appreciate things like driving a new car or wearing a beautiful diamond ring, I would be crazy to not realize that I am either spoiled or very lucky.

This is not to say that things are always perfect, though. I was tossing and turning most of the night with stomach cramps and back aches, I was irritable this morning and seemed to focus only on the fact that my thighs seem to be growing at the same rate as my belly, I was late for work and had to rush to prepare for my first class, and I found myself stressing out about preparing for maternity leave and all the expenses of having a baby. I don't expect to be positive and grateful every second of every day, but I do know I need to work on having a better attitude and perspective, especially on days like today.

So this month, appropriately the same month as Thanksgiving, will be about remembering and celebrating that I have so much to be grateful for. I should never be waking up grumpy or dwelling on the things I wish were better, instead I should be rejoicing in the fact that I was given another day to live and enjoy. Telling people I appreciate them, finding the positive in every situation, and counting my blessings as I go to bed and wake up each day are simple things I plan to do this month.

“You simply will not be the same person two months from now after consciously giving thanks each day for the abundance that exists in your life. And you will have set in motion an ancient spiritual law: the more you have and are grateful for, the more will be given you.” — Sarah Ban Breathnach

Sunday, October 2, 2011

“Simplicity, clarity, singleness: These are the attributes that give our lives power and vividness and joy." --Richard Holloway

January: Nutrition and Health
February: Kindness and Generosity
March: Order and Purpose
April: Strength and Flexibility
May: Relationships
June: Adventure and Fun
July: Community and Environment
August: Knowledge and Interests
September: Sleep and Tranquility
October: Simplicity and Moderation
November: Gratitude and Positivity
December: Spirituality and Resolution


Between working full-time, waddling around with an extra 30 pounds and preparing to bring a little one home in the next couple months (!!!!!), if there was ever a time for me to take a step back and simplify my life a little, I think now would be the time. Unfortunately, keeping things as uncomplicated and easy as possible is easier said than done, and it's even harder if you're a woman. I don't know how, but men seem to have mastered the art of simplicity. Let me give you some examples:

My husband only needs one bar of soap and one bottle of shampoo to take a shower, and he only wants the same Irish Spring soap and the same Head and Shoulders shampoo that he has used for years and years. I've seen commercials for the new Irish Spring men's body wash or soap with moisturing beads, and I'm like, "Oooh, that looks nice and different, you should try that," but he won't have anything to do with it. When it comes to food, I'm about 99% accurate at knowing what he'll order off any menu at any restaurant, and that's because he is a meat and potatoes type of guy (and by that I mean sausage and hashbrowns or hamburger and french fries). And his morning routine (shower, shave, and dress) takes about ten minutes.

I, on the other hand, am not like this. Even if I find a product I like, I want to try a new body wash and salt scrub and face wash and shampoo and conditioner every time I go to the store. I also like to have a variety of scents and textures to choose from so I can match what I use that day to my mood. My husband would never know what I want from a restaurant because my cravings and preferences change all the time. I get overwhelmed when there is a large menu and I have to make a decision because I want to try a little bit of everything, and there is always a battle between choosing ol' trusty and trying something new. I'll usually change my mind at least a dozen times because what if I don't end up liking what I ordered? Oh, that's the worst! And my morning routine (shower or bath or neither, coffee, sometimes Good Morning America, curl or straighten hair, breakfast, makeup, try on several different outfits, put on perfume and jewelry, put the dog outside, decide I don't like what I'm wearing and change, get my lunch ready, turn off lights...), let's just say it takes over an hour.

Why do things have to be so complicated? I guess the answer is that they don't. I don't plan on changing my ways entirely, but I do know that simplicity and moderation are virtues. So here's what I'm thinking this month:
  • Cut back on buying "stuff." Before buying products, groceries, clothes, etc, ask whether it is a need or a want. Limit the wants as much as possible. This will cut back on clutter, save money, and might open my eyes to how much unnecessary "stuff" I buy each month.
  • Minimize my to-do list. I'm slowly learning that it's okay to procrastinate, to say no to people, and to be a little lazy at times. So what if I didn't get those papers graded or have enough energy to change the sheets? Life will go on just the same.
  • Single-task. I am definitely a multi-tasker, but it can leave me feeling frazzled and all over the place. Focus on doing and completing one thing at a time.
  • Have some quiet, media-free time each day. My favorite part of Yoga class is the last ten minutes, when the instructor has us get comfortable, close our eyes, and just concentrate on our breathing. Our world is so busy and over-stimulating that we forget to take time to just be still and breathe. It's good to turn off the TV, put away the cell phone, and just live in the moment for a little bit each day.
  • Moderate food. I've already mentioned that I've gained 30 pounds in my pregnancy, and this did not happen from eating apples and carrot sticks all day. At dinner on Friday, I literally put away a piece of chocolate cake and ice cream in two minutes flat (and it said "big enough to share" on the menu). I think indulging is fine, but I felt ridiculously, uncomfortably stuffed for the next few hours and can safely assume I've gained 31 pounds at this point. "All things in moderation" is a good motto!
  • Spend less time worrying about or deciding on issues. Don't insist on complicating things. Remember that life is really pretty simple.

Wednesday, August 31, 2011

"Sleep is the best meditation." --Dalai Lama

January: Nutrition and Health
February: Kindness and Generosity
March: Order and Purpose
April: Strength and Flexibility
May: Relationships
June: Adventure and Fun
July: Community and Environment
August: Knowledge and Interests
September: Sleep and Tranquility
October: Simplicity and Moderation
November: Gratitude and Positivity
December: Spirituality and Resolution

This month's goal is pretty ironic because lately I've gotten the worst sleep of my entire LIFE! Pregnancy plays the cruel joke of making you extremely tired (hmmm, I guess it takes a lot of energy to create a human from scratch), yet between the frequent bathroom trips in the middle of the night, the "don't sleep on your back or stomach" rule, a kicking baby, an abnormally high body temperature, and a general feeling of discomfort and achiness...let's just say a peaceful night's sleep is near impossible. To top it off, I've developed a cold over the past week, which has left me feeling pretty miserable at night (and you guessed it, no Nyquil)!

I have always loved sleep. I love taking naps, I love sleeping late, and if I could get 10 hours of sleep each night, I would gladly take it. This might also explain why I have black curtains in my bedroom and invested in a memory foam mattress and pricey soft sheets...ahhhh! Making sleep a goal was a no-brainer because it is something that definitely makes me happier and healthier; however, when I wrote these goals I had no plans of being pregnant this year. Successfully incorporating more sleep into my life is not only a lot trickier now, but it is also important for the baby. The other part of this goal is tranquility, and by that I mean more stillness and relaxation each day. This summer I had so much time to sleep in, read books, and concentrate on taking care of myself, but now I am busy with work and my life has gotten chaotic again. So here are some changes I plan to make this month:


  • Let's start with the obvious: go to bed earlier.

  • Relax with a hot bath, candles, and bath salts at night : ).

  • Read before bed instead of watching TV. If I do watch TV, make it something light-hearted or calming (What? Dateline murder investigations at 11 pm aren't a good idea?).

  • No stressful housework on weekdays. I was reading in a magazine today that women who work full-time and do household chores during the week have heightened levels of cortisol, the stress hormone. Even though it drives me crazy to have dirty dishes in the sink or piles of laundry to do, maybe I need to try ignoring it and save chores for the weekend.

  • Exercise a little every day. I started that Prenatal Yoga class for the first time last night, and it was WONDERFUL. It wasnt too intense, and I felt limber and relaxed when I left.

  • Write down to do lists or worrisome thoughts before bed so I don't stay up dwelling on them.

  • Pamper myself. A massage or pedicure goes a long way, especially when you're 6-9 months pregnant. I think I can splurge a little this month if it means being more relaxed.

I'm actually pretty excited to get started on this month's goal! Now if I could just find a cure for a snoring husband...

Monday, July 25, 2011

"When we know better, we do better." --Maya Angelou


January: Nutrition and Health
February: Kindness and Generosity
March: Order and Purpose
April: Strength and Flexibility
May: Relationships
June: Adventure and Fun
July: Community and Environment
August: Knowledge and Interests
September: Sleep and Tranquility
October: Simplicity and Moderation
November: Gratitude and Positivity
December: Spirituality and Resolution


I'll go ahead and warn you, if you could care less about pregnancy, childbirth and babies, then save yourself some time and quit reading now. These topics are pretty much all I can talk or think about these days, and that probably has something to do with my moving and growing belly serving as a constant reminder. Just this summer I've read The Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy, The Joys of Pregnancy, Your Pregnancy Week by Week, Belly Laughs, What to Eat When You're Expecting, What to Expect When You're Expecting, The Complete Idiot's Guide to Natural Childbirth, The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy, and Brain Rules for Baby: How to Raise a Smart and Happy Child from Zero to Five, and this doesn't include magazines, iphone apps, and email subscriptions. This also doesn't include the dozens of books about labor and nursing and sleep habits that I've saved on my kindle or borrowed to read over the next few months. I'm just halfway through my pregnancy, yet I already have a nursery, signed up for prenatal classes, have my first baby shower in the works, registered for strollers and burp cloths, and traded in my tiny car for a (much safer) SUV. I am not sure if I'm nuts or if this is what all excited moms do, but I know it can't do any harm going into this parenting business feeling educated and prepared...right?

This is really the first topic I have felt this way about. (Don't get me wrong, I'm crazy about Shakespeare and Razorback football, but not with near the same intensity.) I have never understood how my husband could happily spend all his spare time researching fishing equipment, watching fishing shows, talking about fish and fixing up old fishing boats, not out of necessity or obligation or boredom, but out of sheer interest. (Did I mention my husband suggested "Fisher" as a potential boy name? Just saying.) I think I get it now because I finally found something I am genuinely passionate about, too. Learning how to raise a healthy, happy child has become so interesting and all-consuming for me that now I'm the one spending all my spare time researching baby equipment, watching baby shows, talking about babies and fixing up the spare bedroom! When I started this blog in December, I planned for August to be about knowledge and interests, but I didn't realize at the time that I'd be 5 months pregnant and my life would be totally centered around this little baby boy. With that said, here's what I plan to do this month to pursue knowledge and interests:


  • More books! Yes, maybe I can break a world record for the number of books read during a single pregnancy. If baby books were crack, then I'd be a crack addict, I admit it. A baby's development in and out of the womb is completely miraculous, and I learn something new and fascinating about it with each new book.


  • Starting this week, my husband and I begin a 12 week natural childbirth class. Even though natural childbirth has been linked to shorter labors, less complications, and less side effects for mom and baby, I've had many people, including doctors, tell me I'm insane for wanting a drug-free labor and delivery. I have no problem with women choosing or needing to receive interventions and pain medicine, and for all I know I will be one of them, but I do believe childbirth is supposed to be a beautiful, empowering experience rather than a scary medical procedure (and I don't care what anybody says, epidurals and episiotomies are SCARY). While modern medicine can be very beneficial and convenient, when it comes down to it I want to feel in control of and confident in my body instead of it being numbed or immobilized. Obviously this is way easier said than done, and it will probably be the hardest thing I ever do, so I know I need to be as prepared and knowledgeable about it as I can.

  • Research. There are so many options when it comes to raising a child, from types of carseats, to parenting styles, to vaccinations, to childcare...and the list goes on. Some of these decisions are simple, but others are controversial and could be life-changing! I know some of my anxiety will be alleviated by talking to other moms, researching the internet, and asking professionals their opinion.

  • This month I decided to start a prenatal Yoga class, too. Not only is it a good way to stay fit and limber, it will also give me a chance to be around other pregnant women.

  • Explore other interests and topics outside of babies. Ok, so I don't know what those might be at this moment. I guess I have a new year of school coming up, so I could work on lesson plans...or maybe I could take a cooking class or read a new fiction book...nah, who am I kidding? I'll just stick to babies.

Friday, July 1, 2011

FYI :)

The format of my blog is going to change just a little bit. Instead of posting twice a month, I am going to post just once at the beginning of each month. Between the craziness of a new school year and my third trimester quickly approaching, I want to simplify things a little. I'll be sure to reflect on each goal and the year as a whole at the end of December!

Thursday, June 30, 2011

"When we heal the earth, we heal ourselves." -David Orr

January: Nutrition and Health
February: Kindness and Generosity
March: Order and Purpose
April: Strength and Flexibility
May: Relationships
June: Adventure and Fun
July: Community and Environment
August: Knowledge and Interests
September: Sleep and Tranquility
October: Simplicity and Moderation
November: Gratitude and Positivity
December: Spirituality and Resolution

Taking care of the community and environment is very important to me, but I'm also guilty of being a walking contradiction at times. I believe in buying locally, but I definitely visit Walmart more than the farmer's market or co op. I think recycling and reducing waste is crucial to protecting the environment, but my recycling bin doesn't make it to the curb every week. I will have my moments where I'm extremely aware of turning off lights, the AC, and running water and then many more where it's the last thing on my mind. I've watched the earth-friendly documentary "No Impact Man" and had hands-on experience in college with self-sustainability, and although I already know that I will never have the discipline to live to those extremes, I can and should be doing way more to live in a way that respects and protects the Earth and my community. Most of my actions that have a negative impact are done out of sheer laziness or convenience, and that is not a good enough excuse when I am a role model, as a teacher and future parent, to a generation that will inherit the planet and carry on my habits. So here's the plan:

Reduce, Reuse, Recycle

As I'm typing this, I'm looking at the remnants of my lunch from Stonemill Bread Co. The good side is that it is local and fresh; the bad side is I'm staring at a styrofoam cup and several empty containers and packages all from my one small meal. It would be unreasonable for me to say that I want to be completely waste-free, but that doesn't mean I can't cut down in many ways. Next time I get takeout, I will request less bags and try to reuse containers for leftovers and lunches. My large, reusable shopping bags will stay in my car for each grocery trip, and I'm not sure how, but I'm going to remember to bring them in with me this time!

Our current trash system has brought a whole new meaning to "out of sight, out of mind." I am sometimes astonished at how full our trashcan is each week (and with just two people in our house!), yet it is quickly forgotten when the trash is emptied and whisked away to a landfill somewhere. I went TODAY, for the first time ever, and bought some bins to separate recyclables and looked up info about my city's recycling program. I think having these bins by the trashcan will be a constant reminder to recycle every day, every week.


(And when I bought the bins, I bypassed bags for all my other purchases and just had them load everything in these. See, I'm already making less of an impact!)

Food

I went to a wedding last weekend that was on a farm. The food was unbelievably fresh and delicious, which is probably why I helped myself to two plates. The steak kabobs were from the family's cow that was alive just a couple days before and the fruits and vegetables were recently picked out of the garden by the bride's friends (green beans, potatoes, tomatoes with basil, cantaloupe, mint, and blueberries...yum!). Maybe it goes without saying, but tasting a ripe green bean that was just picked off the plant is a totally different experience, nutritionally and for the taste buds, than having a soggy green bean out of a can. Being fortunate enough to grow up with a large garden in my grandparent's backyard and now having a mother-in-law with two vegetable gardens, I have known for a long time that what most Americans call food is not really food at all. You can't taste the beauty and freshness of the earth in a Happy Meal or Snickers, and there can't be anything right about eating artificial or genetically modified foods. This is not to say that I haven't enjoyed my fair share of junk food and that chocolate cake is off the menu, but I am eating for two these days and want to raise my family to be healthy and aware of what REAL food is. This month, I plan for the majority of my meals to be fresh, preferably organic, local food and to plant a little herb garden (a vegetable garden is going in my backyard next year, I swear!).


Think Local

I'm not one of those people that thinks big corporations are corrupting our world and shouldn't be supported. Places like Walmart have provided many of my friends and family members with a job, supported many fundraisers for my school, and once started out as the little man themselves. I would be devasted, though, if some of my favorite local diners, boutiques, and grocery stores went out of business. Even if these places are more expensive or less convenient, I'm happy knowing my money is going to hard-working people that live in my hometown, plus the service and products are usually better anyway! Between the farmer's market, fruit stands, the co op, and the family garden, I have plenty of places to get healthy food that supports the local farmers and economy. And between places like Ultra Studios and Maude, I really don't need to go shopping in the mall. We'll see how this goes, but I will try to be more mindful of choosing local businesses when I get out to run my errands.

Go Green

Although all of the above things are part of the green movement, there are other things I can do to be an advocate for the environment. Buying green cleaning supplies and beauty products is one major way, not to mention it is safer and better for your body. (The best cleaning tip I've ever taken: Put some vinegar and a full pot of water in your coffee maker and press start. Scrub baking soda in your bath/shower/sink and then pour the hot water from the coffeepot over everything. It cleans your bathroom, drains, and coffee maker squeaky clean and it is all natural and cheap!) Reducing the amount I use my car and utilities in my house will also be a huge priority this month. Turning off power strips and unplugging appliances, as well as switching to energy-efficient lightbulbs, can add up to quite a bit of savings on energy bills. It also wouldn't hurt for me to get out and plant some flowers and trees, fill our bird feeder with some seeds, and appreciate living in The Natural State!


"We all moan and groan about the loss of the quality of life through the destruction of our ecology, and yet every one of us, in our own little comfortable ways, contributes daily to that destruction. It's time now to awaken in each one of us the respect and attention our beloved Mother deserves."
-Ed Asner

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes."--Marcel Proust

After reading my last post, I mention that the purpose of adding more fun and adventure in my life is so I don't become too sedentary and stuck in my comfort zone, but really I think the Nadine Stair quote said it best. I've learned a pretty simple lesson this month. Lately I've been so inspired by the tiny life growing inside me that it has changed my perspective on what matters and it has brought me a sense of clarity and gratefulness that I've never had before. Even more, a friend from high school tragically lost his baby boy to SMA this month, and knowing that every second of Miller's short life was special and appreciated has really moved me to change the way I live my own.

Although I will always look forward to fun and new experiences, I realize now that I'm not truly living my life every time I count down the hours until work is over, or the days until the upcoming weekend or the weeks until my next vacation. What about the large amounts of time spent in between all this "fun" stuff? Rather than planning for fun and adventurous experiences, I have spent the past few weeks finding enjoyment in each moment and each part of everyday life. Living a fulfilling life with no regrets is less about going on amazing vacations and wild adventures, but it is more about finding the beauty in everyday things, not worrying so much, and not wasting a single precious second we are given on this earth. My husband, my home, my family, my job: these things are all I need to lead a fun and happy life, and I honestly don't know if I could have said that a few months ago.

I guess it's also safe to say that what I once considered the definition of fun and adventure (partying like a rock star in Vegas comes to mind) doesn't sound all that fun (or doctor approved) anymore. These days, cuddling with my husband in a hammock and making each other laugh sounds like fun. Having friends over for a cookout and board games sounds like fun.Taking my dog on a walk and eating cookie dough ice cream sounds like fun. Reading a good book and falling asleep in bed by 10 pm actually sounds like fun. I am slowly turning into *gulp* an old person...but I think I like it.

Thank you, Miller, for teaching me that every little moment matters.